Monday, September 25, 2017

Mindset Matters

I know WHO I am

Do you know who you are? What I have found is many cannot truly answer this question but knowing who you are is very crucial and essential. Most important, knowing who you are in Christ.

1 John 3:2New King James Version (NKJV)

2 Beloved, now we are children of God; and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be, but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is. 

God is a loving Father whose deepest desire is to have a two-way conversational relationship with the Apple of His eye, His beloved creation, YOU!

Empowering someone can be a simple phrase or statement of God’s love for them. I encourage you to tell someone they are the Apple of God's eye.

It thrills me to know that we have an invitation from God to experience the blessings of living our purpose... Knowing who you are and who you may become can be tested by people you would least expect, causing conflicts with people misunderstanding and pre-judging you.

Knowing Who You Are

You may find yourself not fitting in the social groups; your circle of friends may have to change.

When I think of the words I am, the I AM in knowing that my relationship could not be connected to a better source (The Father) and knowing that I am one of His precious creations, helps me define myself and my purpose.

I think of the saying - "It Is, What It Is". These words can motivate you to seek your full potential. It takes a mindset change to walk freely and boldly in your purpose.

The Gospel of John has some powerful meaningful expressions of "I Am"s that are found.

There are seven of these, as follows:

1. "I am the bread of life" (John 6:35, 48,51).


2. "I am the light of the world" (John 8:12).


3. "I am the door of the sheep"(John 10:7,9).


4. "I am the good shepherd" (John 10:11,14).


5. "I am the resurrection, and the life" (John 11:25).


6. "I am the way, the truth, and the life" (John 14:6).


7. "I am the true vine" (John 15:1,5).


And Remember you are the Apple of his Eye.

Cassandra Williams-Herbert
Contributing Writer

Sunday, September 24, 2017

Cindy's Featured Artist of the Week - TASTEiTPARTIES


TASTEiTPARTIES is your ultimate CULINARY SOCIETY  and PARTY PLANNING SERVICE.  We specialize in PARTIES, Global Gourmet Bites, Culinary Escapes, Pantry Products, Event Planning, and Chef Referrals. We are your one-stop shop for your catering and event planning needs! Our end goal is to ensure that every client feels like a VIP, every TASTE a gourmet bite and every BITE a culinary escape! From intimate setting dinners to cocktail parties, to galas and everything in between we got you!

Our MISSION is to bring the VIP experience to every event as we help our clients CELEBRATE life special occasions. We are a culinary society of caterers, chefs, event designers and planners, each working individually or together to bring their vision to life; providing clients with the ultimate culinary escape and PARTY experience!

We ENVISION bringing the Global Gourmet Culinary Experience to events nationally through our line of TASTEiTPARTIES gourmet sauces, seasonings and small bites products and hope to be the most desired provider and platform for our clients, chefs and event planners in the industry!

My passion for food and entertaining started at an early age, we had parties (LIME/Hang Out) at our home every weekend. My dad loved playing music and every Friday evening he would put on his tunes, (loud) kick back and have a drink before you know it one or two neighbors would pop in, a friend or two would pass by to “check” the Boss… that’s what they call him! LOL! Often times my mom would whip something up really quick in the kitchen and my sister and I were the runners/servers, I loved it… everyone always seemed so happy, laughter in the air, the smell of deliciousness coming from our kitchen and we got to eavesdrop on the adults! 

I started cooking at 10 years old (details in my book one day) but as early as 16 my dad’s friends would ask me to make my Fried Chicken and Potato Salad for them. Eventually, that turned into me being an unofficial caterer and since I liked making everything pretty, I got to design and stage the table and room too! I honestly can’t think of a culture where food is not the center of a get-together or celebration of any kind.

I was always creative in the kitchen, trying new ways to prep, cook and present food, being from the Caribbean that was not always readily received but I would ALWAYS say “JUST TASTE IT”. I love the idea of elevating food and the experiences surrounding food to a VIP culinary escape, hence the beginning of TASETiTPARTIES! Today we offer our clients a culinary society with a modern approach to party planning with our TASTING parties, the chef experience with our Signature Rubs and Sauces, a wide variety of global gourmet cuisine options, a host of chefs to choose from, event designers and so much more!

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Thursday, September 21, 2017

Ask AunT

Dear AunT,

Q:  When do you tell the truth about having an orgasm?

A:  When it comes to your relationship, truth should always be a priority and when having a discussion about sex in your relationship, you should never be afraid of exploring questions and seeking answers for them. 

Sex is always an issue with couples because the majority of us (me included) have been taught that sex is taboo or sexual desires/questions shouldn’t be asked or whatever the case may be, sex has been that topic that most of us are afraid to explore. 

As a couple in the beginning of your courting/dating status, these conversations should take place. Discuss your desires, dislikes, likes, and when you become united, explore the unknown! Orgasms are natural and they are part of you. Sometimes you may not experience orgasms due to many factors. This is when you should consult a doctor; women (OBGyn) men (physician) or as a couple, consult with a Certified/Licensed Sex Therapist. YES!! A Sex Therapist! It’s ok! What better way to learn about yourself…ask questions and explore. 

However, remember to always tell the truth and don’t be shamed. Orgasms are natural and if your partner is sexually connected with you, they will be able to tell. ;)

Can’t wait to chat with you next week!

Love ya,

Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Raise 'Em and Praise Him - Testimony Tuesday! Cindy

Good day Family! Resharing one of my past writings on this Testimony Tuesday! God bless and make it a great day in the Lord!


I'm in the Spirit right now.

My strength comes from the Father, for my heavenly Father told me "Yes, You Can" when I felt I was in my deepest and darkest place ever.

God told me to trust in Him and He'd bring me through. He wanted me to not just believe in Him but to believe in myself. God said, "Yes, You Can"!! When I think my plate is overwhelmingly full - God says - "Yes, You Can"!!

I know my journey wouldn't be a successful one without His strength and endearing love for me. I know I wouldn't be in this position to hold on and keep on pushing if it wasn't for His grace and mercy. I've run into many obstacles on my journey - yet being discouraged isn't in my vocabulary. God has and continues to remind me that with everything in front of me - He's got me. God says be encouraged - "Yes, You Can"! "Yes Lord, I can"!

My daily prayers and my belief in the Father keeps me on this aggressive path to not only better myself but to encourage someone else. If I can recognize where all my gifts and talents come from and praise Him for trusting me to use them to glorify Him - you can too!

Step up, step out! Praise God for every challenge you've faced because you've been made into a better person for it. You made it through didn't you? Of course, you did - God said, "Yes, You Can"!!!

Each one reaches one, pass on God's love story! Help another to see exactly why you're smiling. Share God's word, His will, His way! We're in this together and I'm with you, my Brother, my Sister - let's take this walk together because with God on our side - we can do anything and we will be one in Him.

God says "Yes, You Can"! Thank you, Father, I can and I will!



Sunday, September 17, 2017

Cindy's Featured Artist of the Week - Toni Larue


Toni Larue is a little bit of everything right now. She has two companies: The Playlist (Books4u and Music4U). Her companies provide music and books to prison facilities nationwide. She is also the co-owner of Team Jon Doe. It’s an artist management company. They have two artists they’re working with: Brownboi Maj and JusXJustice. It's Toni's goal to expand toward managing more authors in the future.

She's also expanding her resume as a screenplay writer. She and her husband are collaborating on a dramedy so look out for that in a year.  She has two short stories only being released on e-books on coming soon: Have Mercy and The Morning After. These e-books will be a part of her horror collection. No Kissing became available August 31st and Abandoned Secrets: Lost Souls will be available December 12th on Amazon.

No Kissing is a novel she wrote 10 years ago.  It went through many name changes, the plot changed a bit but Toni was happy to finally see it completed. No Kissing came to her when she was at work. The first two chapters of the book, she wrote in two hours (she didn’t get much work done). "It just spilled out of me. That’s what took so long for me to complete it, I’d like to think because I wanted it to be organic. I wanted it to flow."

No Kissing is about a psychological thriller, of sorts. It takes you into the minds of three different people with three different motives. Langston, the main character is a sociopath who falls “dangerously” in love with his mistress.
Josephine, Langston’s wife, is aware of her husbands “issues” and she does what she can to clean up his messes. Then there's Leila. She’s young and na├»ve. She sees Langston as her meal ticket. In her mind, Langston is playing right into the palm of her hand but it doesn’t take her long to realize she might be the one actually getting played.

Abandoned Secrets: Lost Souls: Monroe Connors is back. The story takes place right after the first novel ends. Monroe is paranoid that the people she brought down will come after her. She wants to move on but is forced back into the underground world of the sex slave trade, when Elizabeth, the mother of a missing girl, seeks Monroe out to help her find her daughter. Toni introduced some new characters, Elizabeth and Charlie Steel and also brought back some fan favorites like Lance and Dominic.

"I love this book and I am so excited for people to read it.  This year has been great to me and I'm excited about promoting these two beautiful novels." 


Cindy's Featured Guest Writer - Devin Hillery


Hey, everyone! My name is Devin, I'm 16 years old and I’m an aspiring musician! Music will forever be a part of my life. I’m so happy to be able to do what I love and move forward with it. 

I started music when I was a little kid. My grandfather was the one who introduced me to it. He played the piano! I remember every time when I went to visit my grandparents, I would always go into the piano room and start playing what I thought sounded good. I’d be so excited to share the “song” I came up with and present it to the family. They always loved it, and I loved it more. A few times I would hear my grandpa playing the piano and I was so intrigued to see how he did it; I wanted to learn more. I would sit down next to him and he would slowly teach me the songs and I learned them right off the bat! He was a very strict teacher as well. Never bang on the keys, be clear, glide with your fingers. It was the very basic training that I got from him that made me the musician that I am today.

Once my grandpa passed on, I started to take music further. I kept playing the piano, practicing every time I went to visit my grandma and I got better and better. I came to the realization that on a piano I usually don’t need sheet music to look at. I’ll listen to a song, and then I'll press the keys that are the right note and just memorize it. It’s weird. I know. I don’t know how I do it but it just happens. I took a break from piano and decided to go to the orchestra in the fourth grade. I only played the violin for a month but it was probably one of the hardest instruments I have ever played. And violin is one of my favorite instruments! I love the soothing sound it has; it has a very good tone too! After that short month of the orchestra, I had gone to a new school and wasn’t sure if I wanted to stay with violin or switch instruments. I decided to switch and go to the band on clarinet! Now, this is where the journey really begins.

I attended Cardinal Forest Elementary School. I was in the 5th grade and I had my first day of band class. I was really nervous and didn’t know how to play a squeak on the clarinet but my teacher was very helpful during my first few weeks and then she retired. I had gotten a new teacher later on and she was one of the best teachers I have ever had. She got me more interested in music as I became more familiar with the clarinet. 

Once I got into middle school, things started getting serious and I never liked the band as much; only because of the practice records but I scored 100’s on those every week. There was a test at the end of the year to see which band you would get into for the next year. I was always nervous. I didn’t think I would get any further. I was kinda letting myself down. I remember going into the room and my band teacher was asking me to play certain scales and then my prepared piece. My initial thought when I got out the room was I completely did terrible on my prepared piece, and scales and I won’t move further. Well, I got into the second highest band level for 8th grade! I was astounded. I was really proud of myself and I didn’t think something like that would happen.

Near the end of my 8th-grade year, I had to do another placement audition. Then I realized that if I were to stay in the band until I graduate high school, then I would have to audition every time at the end of the year because there are different band levels. 

The high school band teacher came in and I was ready for my audition. I kept boosting up my confidence and I was ready. I did what I had to do and then I found out that I got into the lowest band level in high school. Concert Band. I wasn’t happy at all with what I placed but then there were people there who were much better than me so, at the same time, it was okay. That just meant I had to work harder to get where I wanted to be. 

My sophomore year I moved up to the symphonic band, the second highest level, and this year (my junior year), I placed Wind Symphony. The highest level at West Springfield high school. I was in shock! I placed 8/10th chair clarinet! Then a new clarinetist came and she placed 4th chair so everyone after her got moved down one so now I’m 9th chair. That is totally okay because I’m still in Wind Symphony! 

This musical journey is going great so far and I have progressed so much throughout my six years in the band. I think that music is an essential part of life. Music seems like the one thing that everyone would want or need depending on emotions, just playing it for fun, or whatever the reason may be. If it’s a rainy day I’ll play in a concert E flat. When listening to music, I allow the song to dictate whatever emotion it may bring out in me. A lot of the songs evoke. I learned that word from my high school band teacher. Evoke. For those of you who don’t know, it’s putting more emotion out into a song, making it sound clear, or depth within the song, making it sound dark, however the song is written.

When I graduate high school, my dream is to go to a music school and major in music. If that road doesn’t go the right way then my backup is Astronomy. I think that I can achieve my goals in music because I’m really setting the bar high for myself. I have high expectations. I want to be the one person that people remember or think of, in musical terms. I want to leave my mark. I want to be the person who makes a difference between an incredible performance than an average one. I have started looking at music schools and I’m mostly looking at in and out of state colleges. Now, this is going to sound crazy but my dream has been to go to The Juilliard School. Even though the bar to get in is really high, I still want to put myself out there and do the audition anyway. I have looked at schools such as GMU, JMU, VT, etc. But that’s my goal in life right now. I want to get into a music school no matter what it takes. I’m glad that I have that determination because it’s what keeps me moving forward and pursuing my dreams.

Friday, September 15, 2017

Ask AunT

Dear AunT,

Q:  Can a woman’s sexual intent be judged by the clothing she’s wearing?

A:  This question always leads to heated discussions among both sexes. I personally don’t think sexual intent can be judged by the clothes that she wears simply because clothes can suggest many things to the eye of the beholder. 

I remember growing up, I wore skirts and dresses due to religious practices. I’ve always been curvy even as a child but most of my peers could still see the silhouette of my shape in my long skirts with a heavy lined slip and long sleeve blouses. So although I was completely covered, my male peers still had their own imagination and would often taunt me about my hips, butt, thighs, etc. I was even sexually harassed with these clothes (Little House on the Prairie look). So what was my intent then? None…..

On the flip side of this topic, women should take some responsibility in making sure that they feel secure and confident in whatever they wear. This means, if you choose to wear clothes that will bring attention to your body in a negative manner, you do have the right to not be treated with disrespect, no matter what you wear. I know this is not favorable among the seasoned generation because we were taught that it is our fault if men cat called or judged us if we are wearing provocative clothing. This is not true and it has been proven in many court cases over the years.

I think respect is the key…respect from others as well as for self. Sexual intent has nothing to do with what you are wearing.

Until next time, thanks for asking your favorite AunT….I’ll chat with you soon. 

Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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