Friday, September 29, 2017

Ask AunT

Dear AunT,

Q: When does a woman start listening to a man about how’s she’s dressing?

A: Hmmm, that's a great question with a teeny tiny problem. Listening should begin the moment you both enter into a healthy and committed relationship; usually in the courting/dating stage. As the relationship evolves, so should your expectations for each other so that new ‘ BodyCon’ dress shouldn’t come as a surprise on date night ;)

A woman should know what her significant other likes or dislikes. However, things do change and you may want to experience new looks from time to time and it’s OK! It’s ok to want to explore sexy & creative looks or just be comfortable and cute in your sneakers & sweats. It’s also acceptable to ask your mate for their opinion on what you are wearing but be mindful that whatever you choose, it should represent you AND your healthy relationship. IF the man disagrees with your choice, don’t argue, simply find creative ways to resolve the issue and if it can’t be resolved, then there is a bigger problem.

Until next time, chat with you later!


Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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Sticky Notes

Trinette Collier Greene - Teacher

Sticky Notes… Sticky Situations Daily Dose of ?!?!

Hey everyone! Welcome back to Sticky Notes…. Sticky Situations Daily Dose of ?!?! I hope your school year is starting off just right! In the last article, I gave you a few pointers on how to have a great year. Are they helpful? I hope so! 

Today, let’s chat about meeting your child’s teacher. I know, I know…what is the big deal about meeting the teacher? Well, to be honest, many times mishaps occurs when both the parent and teacher are not on one accord. This can easily happen when the message is not clear on both ends. There should be expectations set for the teacher as well as the parent. Such as, what is the curriculum? The grading system? The homework policy? Discipline system for the school and the classroom? When are conferences? Progress/Report Cards and MORE! Ask questions. 

All of these factors and more should be communicated and set in the beginning of the school year. This should also be discussed with the child present, so a Parent/Teacher Meet & Greet should take place and then a conference BEFORE anything happens like an unsatisfied grade. You don’t have to become buddies with the teacher but do let the teacher know that you are willing to work with her/him for the best interest of your child. Also, remember that teachers are people too! We have personal lives, families, and other factors in our lives as well so we have to balance our students and parents. 

Let your child know that your family appreciates their teacher and are supportive of the decisions that are made. Send tokens of appreciation throughout the year (nothing expensive but a simple Thank You). If you don't agree, always discuss that with the teacher away from the child. Remember, the common goal is to give him/her the BEST education for the school year. It’s a three-legged team; Parent, Teacher, and Community.

Stay connected for more tips on having a great year and more! Until next time, remember to get a daily dose of laughter & love.

Mrs. Collier Greene

Tuesday, September 26, 2017

Raise 'Em and Praise Him - Testimony Tuesday! Cindy

Good day family! I can't disappoint you, my readers, so here's another one of my writings of past that I'm resharing. Send in your testimony so we'll have new snippets of God's love to share with each other. 

Today’s message written by Cindy Reed

"Brush Your Tongue with a Purpose in Mind"

I’m sure that at one point and time in your life, you’ve heard the phrase “I’m going to wash your mouth out with soap. Even if it was never said to you, I’m sure you heard it stated. That statement comes from someone believing that a child said or might say something that wasn’t appropriate.

Did you know that you should brush your “tongue” every time you brush your teeth? Do you know the “scientific” reasoning behind it? If not, Google it.  I’m here to talk to you about the “spiritual” meaning behind it.

The tongue has a very important role. Without it, you cannot speak. With it, you have a choice on what you speak. The tongue can cut, manipulate, deceive, and destroy, amongst many other negative things. It can praise, sing, testify, preach, and teach, amongst other positive things.

Within our mouth, each one of us has the power to control the negative and the positive. With the tongue, God has given us free will to make choices that either do harm or good. The choice is ours.

My message today comes from the reminder I get when brushing my teeth and I wanted to share that with you. As I brush my teeth, I am reminded from time to time to brush my tongue. I’m not always reminded and when I’m not, I do it anyway. God knows me well and He knows what I’m going to do and say before I do. I get subtle reminders from time to time to brush my tongue. Those reminders say one thing only to me. Brush your tongue as a reminder that you watch what you say today. Let this act that starts off your day, remind you that you should clean your tongue so that you are mindful of what you allow to roll off of it.

Folks, if each of us takes that message/reminder to heart, we’ll do a lot less hurting to one another and more uplifting of one another. Instead of cutting each other down, we’ll build each other up. We’ll start our day off with a certain kind of holiness to do the right thing because we’ve cleansed our tongue of anything foul that shouldn’t be. Germs removed that can cause havoc, not only inside our mouths but cause havoc with what we allow to leave our mouths. A lot can be transferred by way of the tongue.

So each morning when brushing your teeth, if you don’t already do this, think of the Lord our God and brush your tongue with Him in mind. Brush it and make it your daily reminder that you’re cleansing your tongue today to honor Him. Allow yourself to start your day off trying to do the right thing. Remember that the foul language that you let leave your mouth will have a negative impact on you later; in one way, shape or form.

Present positivity. Psalm 19:14
Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.

Have a very blessed day today family. One love in Christ. Let’s stand together. Love, Cindy*

Monday, September 25, 2017

Mindset Matters

I know WHO I am

Do you know who you are? What I have found is many cannot truly answer this question but knowing who you are is very crucial and essential. Most important, knowing who you are in Christ.

1 John 3:2New King James Version (NKJV)

2 Beloved, now we are children of God; and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be, but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is. 

God is a loving Father whose deepest desire is to have a two-way conversational relationship with the Apple of His eye, His beloved creation, YOU!

Empowering someone can be a simple phrase or statement of God’s love for them. I encourage you to tell someone they are the Apple of God's eye.

It thrills me to know that we have an invitation from God to experience the blessings of living our purpose... Knowing who you are and who you may become can be tested by people you would least expect, causing conflicts with people misunderstanding and pre-judging you.

Knowing Who You Are

You may find yourself not fitting in the social groups; your circle of friends may have to change.

When I think of the words I am, the I AM in knowing that my relationship could not be connected to a better source (The Father) and knowing that I am one of His precious creations, helps me define myself and my purpose.

I think of the saying - "It Is, What It Is". These words can motivate you to seek your full potential. It takes a mindset change to walk freely and boldly in your purpose.

The Gospel of John has some powerful meaningful expressions of "I Am"s that are found.

There are seven of these, as follows:

1. "I am the bread of life" (John 6:35, 48,51).


2. "I am the light of the world" (John 8:12).


3. "I am the door of the sheep"(John 10:7,9).


4. "I am the good shepherd" (John 10:11,14).


5. "I am the resurrection, and the life" (John 11:25).


6. "I am the way, the truth, and the life" (John 14:6).


7. "I am the true vine" (John 15:1,5).


And Remember you are the Apple of his Eye.

Cassandra Williams-Herbert
Contributing Writer

Sunday, September 24, 2017

Cindy's Featured Artist of the Week - TASTEiTPARTIES


TASTEiTPARTIES is your ultimate CULINARY SOCIETY  and PARTY PLANNING SERVICE.  We specialize in PARTIES, Global Gourmet Bites, Culinary Escapes, Pantry Products, Event Planning, and Chef Referrals. We are your one-stop shop for your catering and event planning needs! Our end goal is to ensure that every client feels like a VIP, every TASTE a gourmet bite and every BITE a culinary escape! From intimate setting dinners to cocktail parties, to galas and everything in between we got you!

Our MISSION is to bring the VIP experience to every event as we help our clients CELEBRATE life special occasions. We are a culinary society of caterers, chefs, event designers and planners, each working individually or together to bring their vision to life; providing clients with the ultimate culinary escape and PARTY experience!

We ENVISION bringing the Global Gourmet Culinary Experience to events nationally through our line of TASTEiTPARTIES gourmet sauces, seasonings and small bites products and hope to be the most desired provider and platform for our clients, chefs and event planners in the industry!

My passion for food and entertaining started at an early age, we had parties (LIME/Hang Out) at our home every weekend. My dad loved playing music and every Friday evening he would put on his tunes, (loud) kick back and have a drink before you know it one or two neighbors would pop in, a friend or two would pass by to “check” the Boss… that’s what they call him! LOL! Often times my mom would whip something up really quick in the kitchen and my sister and I were the runners/servers, I loved it… everyone always seemed so happy, laughter in the air, the smell of deliciousness coming from our kitchen and we got to eavesdrop on the adults! 

I started cooking at 10 years old (details in my book one day) but as early as 16 my dad’s friends would ask me to make my Fried Chicken and Potato Salad for them. Eventually, that turned into me being an unofficial caterer and since I liked making everything pretty, I got to design and stage the table and room too! I honestly can’t think of a culture where food is not the center of a get-together or celebration of any kind.

I was always creative in the kitchen, trying new ways to prep, cook and present food, being from the Caribbean that was not always readily received but I would ALWAYS say “JUST TASTE IT”. I love the idea of elevating food and the experiences surrounding food to a VIP culinary escape, hence the beginning of TASETiTPARTIES! Today we offer our clients a culinary society with a modern approach to party planning with our TASTING parties, the chef experience with our Signature Rubs and Sauces, a wide variety of global gourmet cuisine options, a host of chefs to choose from, event designers and so much more!

PHONE 494 234 4940
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Thursday, September 21, 2017

Ask AunT

Dear AunT,

Q:  When do you tell the truth about having an orgasm?

A:  When it comes to your relationship, truth should always be a priority and when having a discussion about sex in your relationship, you should never be afraid of exploring questions and seeking answers for them. 

Sex is always an issue with couples because the majority of us (me included) have been taught that sex is taboo or sexual desires/questions shouldn’t be asked or whatever the case may be, sex has been that topic that most of us are afraid to explore. 

As a couple in the beginning of your courting/dating status, these conversations should take place. Discuss your desires, dislikes, likes, and when you become united, explore the unknown! Orgasms are natural and they are part of you. Sometimes you may not experience orgasms due to many factors. This is when you should consult a doctor; women (OBGyn) men (physician) or as a couple, consult with a Certified/Licensed Sex Therapist. YES!! A Sex Therapist! It’s ok! What better way to learn about yourself…ask questions and explore. 

However, remember to always tell the truth and don’t be shamed. Orgasms are natural and if your partner is sexually connected with you, they will be able to tell. ;)

Can’t wait to chat with you next week!

Love ya,

Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Raise 'Em and Praise Him - Testimony Tuesday! Cindy

Good day Family! Resharing one of my past writings on this Testimony Tuesday! God bless and make it a great day in the Lord!


I'm in the Spirit right now.

My strength comes from the Father, for my heavenly Father told me "Yes, You Can" when I felt I was in my deepest and darkest place ever.

God told me to trust in Him and He'd bring me through. He wanted me to not just believe in Him but to believe in myself. God said, "Yes, You Can"!! When I think my plate is overwhelmingly full - God says - "Yes, You Can"!!

I know my journey wouldn't be a successful one without His strength and endearing love for me. I know I wouldn't be in this position to hold on and keep on pushing if it wasn't for His grace and mercy. I've run into many obstacles on my journey - yet being discouraged isn't in my vocabulary. God has and continues to remind me that with everything in front of me - He's got me. God says be encouraged - "Yes, You Can"! "Yes Lord, I can"!

My daily prayers and my belief in the Father keeps me on this aggressive path to not only better myself but to encourage someone else. If I can recognize where all my gifts and talents come from and praise Him for trusting me to use them to glorify Him - you can too!

Step up, step out! Praise God for every challenge you've faced because you've been made into a better person for it. You made it through didn't you? Of course, you did - God said, "Yes, You Can"!!!

Each one reaches one, pass on God's love story! Help another to see exactly why you're smiling. Share God's word, His will, His way! We're in this together and I'm with you, my Brother, my Sister - let's take this walk together because with God on our side - we can do anything and we will be one in Him.

God says "Yes, You Can"! Thank you, Father, I can and I will!



Sunday, September 17, 2017

Cindy's Featured Artist of the Week - Toni Larue


Toni Larue is a little bit of everything right now. She has two companies: The Playlist (Books4u and Music4U). Her companies provide music and books to prison facilities nationwide. She is also the co-owner of Team Jon Doe. It’s an artist management company. They have two artists they’re working with: Brownboi Maj and JusXJustice. It's Toni's goal to expand toward managing more authors in the future.

She's also expanding her resume as a screenplay writer. She and her husband are collaborating on a dramedy so look out for that in a year.  She has two short stories only being released on e-books on coming soon: Have Mercy and The Morning After. These e-books will be a part of her horror collection. No Kissing became available August 31st and Abandoned Secrets: Lost Souls will be available December 12th on Amazon.

No Kissing is a novel she wrote 10 years ago.  It went through many name changes, the plot changed a bit but Toni was happy to finally see it completed. No Kissing came to her when she was at work. The first two chapters of the book, she wrote in two hours (she didn’t get much work done). "It just spilled out of me. That’s what took so long for me to complete it, I’d like to think because I wanted it to be organic. I wanted it to flow."

No Kissing is about a psychological thriller, of sorts. It takes you into the minds of three different people with three different motives. Langston, the main character is a sociopath who falls “dangerously” in love with his mistress.
Josephine, Langston’s wife, is aware of her husbands “issues” and she does what she can to clean up his messes. Then there's Leila. She’s young and na├»ve. She sees Langston as her meal ticket. In her mind, Langston is playing right into the palm of her hand but it doesn’t take her long to realize she might be the one actually getting played.

Abandoned Secrets: Lost Souls: Monroe Connors is back. The story takes place right after the first novel ends. Monroe is paranoid that the people she brought down will come after her. She wants to move on but is forced back into the underground world of the sex slave trade, when Elizabeth, the mother of a missing girl, seeks Monroe out to help her find her daughter. Toni introduced some new characters, Elizabeth and Charlie Steel and also brought back some fan favorites like Lance and Dominic.

"I love this book and I am so excited for people to read it.  This year has been great to me and I'm excited about promoting these two beautiful novels." 


Cindy's Featured Guest Writer - Devin Hillery


Hey, everyone! My name is Devin, I'm 16 years old and I’m an aspiring musician! Music will forever be a part of my life. I’m so happy to be able to do what I love and move forward with it. 

I started music when I was a little kid. My grandfather was the one who introduced me to it. He played the piano! I remember every time when I went to visit my grandparents, I would always go into the piano room and start playing what I thought sounded good. I’d be so excited to share the “song” I came up with and present it to the family. They always loved it, and I loved it more. A few times I would hear my grandpa playing the piano and I was so intrigued to see how he did it; I wanted to learn more. I would sit down next to him and he would slowly teach me the songs and I learned them right off the bat! He was a very strict teacher as well. Never bang on the keys, be clear, glide with your fingers. It was the very basic training that I got from him that made me the musician that I am today.

Once my grandpa passed on, I started to take music further. I kept playing the piano, practicing every time I went to visit my grandma and I got better and better. I came to the realization that on a piano I usually don’t need sheet music to look at. I’ll listen to a song, and then I'll press the keys that are the right note and just memorize it. It’s weird. I know. I don’t know how I do it but it just happens. I took a break from piano and decided to go to the orchestra in the fourth grade. I only played the violin for a month but it was probably one of the hardest instruments I have ever played. And violin is one of my favorite instruments! I love the soothing sound it has; it has a very good tone too! After that short month of the orchestra, I had gone to a new school and wasn’t sure if I wanted to stay with violin or switch instruments. I decided to switch and go to the band on clarinet! Now, this is where the journey really begins.

I attended Cardinal Forest Elementary School. I was in the 5th grade and I had my first day of band class. I was really nervous and didn’t know how to play a squeak on the clarinet but my teacher was very helpful during my first few weeks and then she retired. I had gotten a new teacher later on and she was one of the best teachers I have ever had. She got me more interested in music as I became more familiar with the clarinet. 

Once I got into middle school, things started getting serious and I never liked the band as much; only because of the practice records but I scored 100’s on those every week. There was a test at the end of the year to see which band you would get into for the next year. I was always nervous. I didn’t think I would get any further. I was kinda letting myself down. I remember going into the room and my band teacher was asking me to play certain scales and then my prepared piece. My initial thought when I got out the room was I completely did terrible on my prepared piece, and scales and I won’t move further. Well, I got into the second highest band level for 8th grade! I was astounded. I was really proud of myself and I didn’t think something like that would happen.

Near the end of my 8th-grade year, I had to do another placement audition. Then I realized that if I were to stay in the band until I graduate high school, then I would have to audition every time at the end of the year because there are different band levels. 

The high school band teacher came in and I was ready for my audition. I kept boosting up my confidence and I was ready. I did what I had to do and then I found out that I got into the lowest band level in high school. Concert Band. I wasn’t happy at all with what I placed but then there were people there who were much better than me so, at the same time, it was okay. That just meant I had to work harder to get where I wanted to be. 

My sophomore year I moved up to the symphonic band, the second highest level, and this year (my junior year), I placed Wind Symphony. The highest level at West Springfield high school. I was in shock! I placed 8/10th chair clarinet! Then a new clarinetist came and she placed 4th chair so everyone after her got moved down one so now I’m 9th chair. That is totally okay because I’m still in Wind Symphony! 

This musical journey is going great so far and I have progressed so much throughout my six years in the band. I think that music is an essential part of life. Music seems like the one thing that everyone would want or need depending on emotions, just playing it for fun, or whatever the reason may be. If it’s a rainy day I’ll play in a concert E flat. When listening to music, I allow the song to dictate whatever emotion it may bring out in me. A lot of the songs evoke. I learned that word from my high school band teacher. Evoke. For those of you who don’t know, it’s putting more emotion out into a song, making it sound clear, or depth within the song, making it sound dark, however the song is written.

When I graduate high school, my dream is to go to a music school and major in music. If that road doesn’t go the right way then my backup is Astronomy. I think that I can achieve my goals in music because I’m really setting the bar high for myself. I have high expectations. I want to be the one person that people remember or think of, in musical terms. I want to leave my mark. I want to be the person who makes a difference between an incredible performance than an average one. I have started looking at music schools and I’m mostly looking at in and out of state colleges. Now, this is going to sound crazy but my dream has been to go to The Juilliard School. Even though the bar to get in is really high, I still want to put myself out there and do the audition anyway. I have looked at schools such as GMU, JMU, VT, etc. But that’s my goal in life right now. I want to get into a music school no matter what it takes. I’m glad that I have that determination because it’s what keeps me moving forward and pursuing my dreams.

Friday, September 15, 2017

Ask AunT

Dear AunT,

Q:  Can a woman’s sexual intent be judged by the clothing she’s wearing?

A:  This question always leads to heated discussions among both sexes. I personally don’t think sexual intent can be judged by the clothes that she wears simply because clothes can suggest many things to the eye of the beholder. 

I remember growing up, I wore skirts and dresses due to religious practices. I’ve always been curvy even as a child but most of my peers could still see the silhouette of my shape in my long skirts with a heavy lined slip and long sleeve blouses. So although I was completely covered, my male peers still had their own imagination and would often taunt me about my hips, butt, thighs, etc. I was even sexually harassed with these clothes (Little House on the Prairie look). So what was my intent then? None…..

On the flip side of this topic, women should take some responsibility in making sure that they feel secure and confident in whatever they wear. This means, if you choose to wear clothes that will bring attention to your body in a negative manner, you do have the right to not be treated with disrespect, no matter what you wear. I know this is not favorable among the seasoned generation because we were taught that it is our fault if men cat called or judged us if we are wearing provocative clothing. This is not true and it has been proven in many court cases over the years.

I think respect is the key…respect from others as well as for self. Sexual intent has nothing to do with what you are wearing.

Until next time, thanks for asking your favorite AunT….I’ll chat with you soon. 

Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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Sunday, September 10, 2017

Beverly's Beatitudes

The Father says today, cast your care upon Me. Those things that you cannot change and cannot get free from, make them My concern and not yours. In My earth walk, I was tempted. I was tempted in every point such as you have been tempted, yet without sin. Your efforts to deal with difficulty and problems often result in making matters worse and polluting your testimony by ungodly responses. Face the reality of your own inability to have a godly response to the ghastly treatment you have received from others. Let Me step in. Run into the high tower of My name. Take your refuge in Me and stop trying to defend the indefensible. I endured rejection. I was hated and despised. I endured all these things so you wouldn't have to. It doesn't mean others won't come against you. It simply means that the sting of hate and sin against you will be assuaged and alleviated by My grace if you will, just give it to Me.

Be wise as a serpent but harmless as a dove. Learn to go quiet when you are in the presence of your enemies. When others narrow the eye and whisper behind closed doors against you - just go low and worship. Go low, take the posture of humility, for I give grace to the humble but resist the proud. Humility is your secret weapon. They may mock and say, "who do you think you are?" but just stay in stillness and trust. They may goad and despise you because those are the things that provoke pride. Refuse to be baited into coming out of the secret place. Let the heathen rage. Let the godless spew their vitriol against you but stay in the place of quiet trust and deep abiding in Me till the storm is passed. This is the path of freedom. It isn't what you have been told by those who think they are the authority on such things, but you be a Father-pleaser and seek the kingdom against all opposition and see the reward that comes to you as a result.

Beverly Branch
Contributing Writer

Cindy's Featured Artist of the Week - Gigi Wilkins


Gigi is an Independent Healthcare Professional, Family Advocate, and Freelance Entertainer. Her professional career spans over 20 years in Healthcare and Emergency Management. 

Gigi's a self-described Extroverted Introvert. She’s often recognized for her giving nature, complimented on her great smile and taste in almost every woman’s vice, the perfect shoe. Gigi enjoys poetry, jazz, and traveling. She spent a month in Germany, giving her the opportunity to refocus. Although Gigi hadn’t reached the level of professional success she’d hoped for, she realized her life circumstances never interfered with her drive to achieve and her passion for helping others. 

Almost 10 years ago, she was introduced to acting and joined SW Casting. Gigi has worked in Texas and Georgia as background and featured talent in local commercials, movies, and television. Divorced, 40, unemployed and facing empty-nest syndrome, her goal was simple, find a “good job” and continue the pursuit of higher education. Gigi’s faith pulled her in a different direction. She decided to adjust and repurpose the challenges of violence, poverty, and manipulation she’d endured. Gigi placed her energy in mentoring, volunteering and donating to organizations dedicated to rehabilitating families as a whole, with emphasis on recognizing the importance of a strong family unit. 

In honor of her mother’s life, Gigi is currently working on initiatives to educate women and men on the long term effects of domestic violence. The objective is to demonstrate how the cycle of abuse transcends far beyond the immediate situation. Gigi is comforted by the memories of her mother’s captivating personality and her motto in the face of opposition, “I’m not perfect, and it could be worse”. 

A message from Gigi

My debut novel “I Married My Daddy- A Personal Journey to Self” was released August 24, 2017. My mother and I started this journey many years ago. I want to be a voice for children who are the silent victims and create a dialog to stop the cycle of abuse and domestic violence. I hope to vividly demonstrate the importance of nurturing children during their formative years.

Is there a message I would like my readers to walk away with after reading my novel; absolutely! It’s not ok to be silent about abuse. Seek help immediately! Don’t ignore warning signs of any type of abuse, document dates, times of incidences, and seek professional counseling. Find a confidant, someone you can trust to safely defuse the situation and offer sound advice. Lastly, take safety measures to remove yourself from the abusive environment; do not allow the circumstances to escalate. You cannot recover from death.

Domestic Violence holds a special place in my heart because I’ve watched generational cycles of abuse and domestic violence destroy families, friendships, careers, and dreams. My goal is to speak to fathers. I’ve shared a few very personal situations I endured because my dad was present in the home, but absent from his responsibilities as a father, a parent, and husband. If it had not been for God, there is no telling what my life would look like today.

What advice would I give women in abusive relationships? Statistics identify the majority of victims of domestic violence as women, it is important to acknowledge that men are also victims of domestic violence and that in some situations both partners engage in a variety of violent behaviors.

In any case, it’s extremely important to seek help immediately. Counseling is a vital step for making better future life and relationship choices. It’s also important to maintain balance in the victim’s lives and the lives of the children associated with the relationship. I want women to own their value, be confident in their decisions, and never feel they have to settle.

I started a GW Project for two reasons. First, domestic violence is physical, verbal, emotional, psychological, financial, and sexual. In my home state of Texas, no matter how long you’ve been a parent and regardless of the age of the children at the time you apply for divorce, you’re required to take a parenting class before a judge will hear the case. However, there’s no requirement or measure to secure affordable counseling for the family, especially for the children involved and I want to change this.

Secondly, I want to develop a method to secure counseling for children who have parents diagnosed and or treated for mental illness, including PTSD, which is often times the catalyst for domestic violence.

What’s next for me, Gigi Wilkins the author and freelance entertainer? My day job keeps me busy along with attending college. All of this has been a blessing to me. I’m a student of life and excited about the opportunities God has placed before me! I am diligently working to complete the Personal Journey to Self-Series and trying my hand at screenplays and script writing.

Connect with me via the “Ask the Author” section on my website where my book can also be purchased. This will enable me to donate a portion of the proceeds to organizations committed to ending the cycle of violence. 

I’ve been blessed to partner with Letrise Carter; Sistah’s Creative Media/Sistah’s Place, who has helped me accomplish my goal of gaining positive media exposure. 

Instagram: gigi.wilkins 
Twitter: msgigiwilkins 

Friday, September 8, 2017

Ask AunT

Dear AunT,

Q: Is it considered cheating if your significant other is reading or watching pornography?

A: Hmmm, let’s see; According to the Dictionary, cheating (v.) means to be sexually unfaithful and watching/reading porn COULD fall in that category. However, there is no actual sexual activity taking place, just self-masturbation and/or with their partner if they are watching it together. In some religions, it is frowned upon and discouraged from being part of the relationship. I would strongly suggest that maybe you seek marital counseling and really talk about sex in your relationship. You probably will discover much more!!

Until next time, thanks for asking your favorite AunT. I'll chat with you soon ;)

Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist

Tuesday, September 5, 2017

Raise 'Em and Praise Him - Testimony Tuesday! Cindy

Dear Reader - I am the owner of Simply Cindy blog. Today, I didn't have a testimony from another to share so I decided to post one of my own older writings. Nothing will stop me from doing the Lord's work so if no one shares a testimony - I'll step in and share one of mine, never a problem; nothing will derail the mission.

Somebody Prayed for Me!

Good morning family. It’s with great honor that I’m here today amongst the living. Today is my birthday and I’m happy to say that I’m 51. This time last year, I was crying my eyes out for turning 50. I felt that that number represented “old” and even though I didn’t feel old or feel I looked old, I just couldn’t wrap my mind around that number. This year, 2015, I’m proud to say I’m 51 and I no longer have a problem with the number 5 anything. ;)

I’m writing this morning because I want to give credit where credit is due. What better time to do that than today on my special day! Giving thanks to my parents who raised me, who helped mold me into the lady I am today. I also want to thank the village who stepped in, Aunts, Uncles, Neighbors, and Friends that put their deposit in my bank of Cindy to help guide me and mold me. It takes a village.

I want to address this writing – “Somebody Prayed for Me”.

Feeling extremely blessed to be here today, I know somebody prayed for me. Coming out of depression from having to walk away from a job I’ve known for 19 years due to the company moving; somebody prayed for me.

Making adjustments daily after stepping out on FAITH and deciding not to return to the corporate world; somebody prayed for me. My leap of faith to relaunch my company – Cindy’s Simple Pleasures, LLC and to listen to God’s voice and direction; somebody prayed for me.

You see, working for ExxonMobil was my world. I’d been with them for 19 years, started as a Mobil employee but God had a different plan in store for my life. Somebody prayed for me. Everything that happened from my last day in the office to today has been written; it was in God’s plan for my life. Somebody prayed for me.

I pray all the time and I prayed over my decision to either relocate with the company to Texas or remain in VA. That wasn’t an easy decision to come to but I prayed and God delivered my answer. I know the voice of the Lord. I know when He answers my prayers. I’m where I’m supposed to be. This was in God’s plan for my life.

Since May 2015, when I walked out of corporate headquarters, God has been doing what He does best. He’s been working on me, preparing me to do His will. He’s been delivering and I’ve been receiving. Again, somebody prayed for me. I had to go through what I went through to be where I am. And guess what? I’m still traveling! I see a long road ahead but one that I’m not traveling down alone. God is with me so I’m “all good”. I don’t have to worry about my future, I just live in the moment and take one day at a time. My faith is strong so I have to be quiet and wait on the Lord to deliver, in His time. Working from home affords me the time to be quiet and listen. Time to receive. It affords me times like this – to write when the Spirit touches me too.

Stepping out on faith and leaving corporate to become a full-time entrepreneur had family members concerned. Somebody prayed for me. I knew what God was telling me, remember, I know how to listen. I knew this is where He wanted me so I listened and remained headstrong in making it my mission to do His will. All while somebody prayed for me.

Life isn’t easy and nothing will be handed to us on a silver platter. We’ve got to go out there and make things happen! We’ve got to do twice as much, work twice as hard but that’s okay as long as the end result is in the positive category and not the negative one. As long as we remain faithful in God Almighty and do His will, if He is for us, who can be against us? No weapon formed against me… right? Indeed. ;) Somebody prayed for me.

My morning prayers thanked God for another birthday. I thanked Him for the blessings He’s already shown me that I’ve walked into and the ones unseen but are yet to come.

If you get anything out of this message, I hope you get this… Believe. Have Faith! “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Step out on Faith today as I did and allow God to do what He does best. Receive Him today, allow your soul to be cleansed and start living a new life in Him. You will see that your day to day activities will change. You will see that you not only have a new walk but a new voice. If you want your circumstances to change, have somebody pray for you but you must allow God to step in by receiving Him today as your Lord and Savior! Somebody prayed for me, let me pray for you!

God bless you family!

One love,


Sunday, September 3, 2017

Cindy's Featured Artist of the Week - Marita Berry!


A self-published fiction author lives in New York City. She cherishes her family, exploring the meaning of life, chocolate, rainy days, salsa dancing, and meditation. 

Marita is most proud of raising her two sons as a single parent into successful young men while continuing her education where she received a master’s degree in Social Work, and being a grandmother to two wonderful grandsons whom she says keeps her grounded. 

Marita’s debut novel, Red September takes the readers on a roller-coaster ride of emotions that will make them laugh, cry, wonder, and wanting more. Her book can be found on

Friday, September 1, 2017

Divine Wellness

Integrative Nutrition

What’s it all about, this integrative nutrition stuff? A new buzz phrase? A catchy title with no substance? Seems as though which each passing day, we hear about some new study explaining the latest trends. What’s good for us one day, is bad for us within a few months. So let’s explore what integrative nutrition means and you can make a determination as to its significance for your life.

Integrative nutrition consists of all the various components of life that nourish your mind, body, and spirit. This includes such areas as career, relationships, physical activity, spirituality and finally, food. So let’s dig deeper into these areas.

Do you have a job that you love? How many of us can unequivocally say that our 9 to 5’s truly encompass all that we need to be happy? Think of how many hours a day, week, even a year that we spend at our jobs, away from loved ones, just to bring home the bacon. For many of us, our careers are a reflection of who we are. As we grow into our professional careers, each supervisor and group of coworkers contribute to the totality of our experience as an employee. We take in the good throw out the bad and keep advancing to the next level. Our jobs eventually develop into careers. Our satisfaction with our careers, or lack thereof, propels us to make appropriate moves, as we set out to accomplish what we were put here to do. Our careers feed and challenge us to use our personal gifts. If we’re not happy with our careers, it causes imbalances in other areas of our lives.

Our relationships with friends, family, colleagues, supervisors, etc., play a significant role in our well-being. Take a moment to think about how many people you know and what your relation is to them. They could be close family members, a college friend or a former boss. Now, how many of those folks do you communicate with on a regular basis? Finally, can you honestly say that the majority of your relationships feed you in a positive way?

Sadly, we all have energy drainers in our lives. You know who they are! Folks who totally exhaust you mentally within a few minutes of conversation. Keep them at arm’s length. Love them from afar and don’t let them steal your joy! Relationships should feed us emotionally, physically and mentally. As you form your circle of influence with those who motivate and inspire you, remember to keep the energy drainers at bay.

According to the President’s Council on Physical Fitness, adults need to exercise five or more days per week for 30 minutes per day. Yeah, ok! Who has time for that? With most two-parent families working full-time and kids coming home from school to an empty house, with tv, snacks, video games, etc., how do we make a case for exercise? Speaking as a parent, kids will emulate the behaviors their parent's display. So if we’re inactive, guess what? The apple won’t fall far from the tree. Think of this… How many times have you started an exercise regimen and eventually stopped? What happened? Most people start exercising with a goal in mind, which is great! But they get caught up in the “New Year’s Resolution” frenzy!

Did you ever sign up for a gym membership in January, only to find yourself falling off the wagon by March? Who needs that? What we do need is a routine of movement to physically feed us, and dare I say, we need it daily. So do something you love! And once you do and stick to a schedule, you’ll be good to go!

How strong is your faith? Do you have a consistent spiritual practice? Daily prayer or meditation, attending church, family rituals, customs and traditions that are spiritually based, guide us to be more in tune with a powerful force that can lead us to the very core of who we are, why we’re here and what we were put here to do. For all of us, spirituality means something different. These activities feed our souls and help us in our own personal growth and development. Explore various methods of nurturing your core being and choose a practice that suits you.

The main components of integrative nutrition – career, relationships, physical activity, and spirituality, are all interconnected. In relation to food, if any one of these four components is not balanced, it affects how, what, when and why we eat.

Current healthcare practices only treat disease symptoms. In order to reach a state of total well-being, the four components of integrative nutrition must be balanced with a daily intake of healthy foods, all with the goal of nourishing the mind, body, and spirit. Every human being on this earth is different and requires a separate personal plan of action for their own well-being to manifest. Integrative nutrition is a concept that can get us there.

Traci A. Fonville is a board certified holistic health coach, a graduate of the Institute of Integrative Nutrition and a registered yoga teacher. She is the owner of I Affirm Wellness, which specializes in health coaching and beginner yoga classes. Follow Traci on Instagram and Facebook @iaffirmwellness.

Divine Wellness by Traci A. Fonville, HC, AADP, RYT
Contributing Writer

Originally published in New Living (Sports, Natural Health & Fitness Newspaper), - 2011