Friday, October 12, 2018

    Trinette Collier Greene

Q: I’m a hard working woman with a full-time job and a business outside of that. I am single, no children, with a beautiful family but have no desire to get married. I am enjoying traveling and just being me! People are always wanting me to get married and don’t believe that I am happy being single. How can I convince them that I’m happy and ok with my single life?

Signed: F.N.~Happy Single Lady

A: Congratulations on being single, a woman and happy! It is quite natural for your friends and family to want to see you happily married with children. Over the years, we’ve equated being married to being happy and that’s not true. For some, it is hard to understand why you would not want to get married and have the ‘American Dream’ of a husband, 2.5 kids, a dog, and a white picket fence. We’ve been so conditioned to think that people can’t be happily single. It is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. The Bible did not say that you had to get married. It states that it is better to marry than to burn.

There is no need to convince anyone that you are happy. Living on purpose and in your full potential will be the only thing you would need to ‘show’ people that you are happy. Allow your living to be a testament to the goodness that God has blessed you with…be genuine as you live your best life. You can respectfully let your friends know that you are happy being single and if you choose to pursue a relationship, then you will. Do not change or feel pressured into doing something that you have no desire to do. This will definitely cause your unhappiness.

Until next time, laugh, love and live life!


Trinette Collier Greene is a Certified Relationship Stylist and Contributing Writer.

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