Trinette Collier Greene

Q:  My husband makes less money than I do and although I’ve always told him that it didn’t matter, he seems to have a huge issue with it. It is starting to affect our relationship and I’m not sure of how to handle it. What shall I do?

Signed: C.M. ~ MoneyDon’tMatter

A: This is a very sensitive topic because men have always been taught to be the breadwinner of the household…no matter what. As we know, the salaries for women have increased over the past decade. Some households have not been affected by the change. The man has not felt pressured to prove to his wife that he can provide. Whereas, the majority of households have had some conversations about income and role reversals. It is usually the pressure of society that has come between the man and his family. This has created chaos in the household.

There has to be a gentle conversation between you and him. I always suggest praying first and ask God how should you begin this conversation. Let your husband know first hand that it is you, him and God when making financial decisions. He is still the man of the home and the roles have not been reversed. Create a budget and build. Let him know that he contributes much more than he thinks and it doesn’t always have to come in the form of money. I know you have reassured him many times that he is still the head of the household. Keep reaffirming that for him because it is a bit rough for men in these times. Bottom line, at the end of your day, it’s you, he and God and no one should know your financial status but you all!

Until next time, love, live and laugh!

Love,
AunT

Trinette Collier Greene is a
Certified Relationship Stylist 

and
Contributing Writer

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