Q: Should you be completely honest with your significant other? Secrets or Not?

Signed: A.P. ~ My Wife Won’t Talk

A: I believe all relationships should consist of respect and honesty. When we marry, we interpret the vows as though we both are agreeing to be upfront and honest with each other about everything. We don’t expect to have secrets, of any kind. However, that is not the case because sometimes there are ’secrets’ but that’s not synonymous with being abominable to the relationship. There may be some past pains/issues that have nothing to do with you and your spouse. He/she might not feel comfortable enough to release it.

If you feel as though your partner is keeping secrets, you can ask. Be gentle and nonjudgemental as you approach the situation. Be ready to listen without the feedback. Most of the time, secrets are kept because of fear. A person needs to feel safe and secure with whomever they plan on sharing with. Whatever the secret is, you have to assure them that they can trust you, no matter what it is! Also, pray about it. Ask God to help with the release journey, whatever it may be. Honesty is always good but it can also be a very delicate situation to handle.

Until next time, continue living and loving life!

Chat with you later!

Love,
AunT

Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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