Trinette Collier Greene

Q: I recently filed for divorce after eight years of marriage and I'm adjusting to my new life. The divorce process wasn’t messy, we simply grew apart. We don’t have any children and all assets were divided fairly… it really was a smooth transition. I’m ready to date and start something new… is that ok?

Signed: D.R. ~ Divorced & Ready

A: I’m really sorry that you had to divorce. It sounds as though you want to be back into a relationship however, I feel as though you will need some time to heal and rediscover self. Although it was not a messy divorce, you still have to self evaluate and figure out what were the reason(s) for your divorce. Was it that you nor he wanted to be in a committed relationship? Did you lose sight of your marriage? Were you totally unhappy in your marriage? You grow apart because of many unresolved issues from both. I’m not sure if you both attended marriage therapy but there should be some discussion BEFORE you start dating again. 

You don’t want to bring the same issues over to a new relationship and you definitely don’t want to get involved just for the sake of having someone. I suggest that you go on a journey of self-discovery and revisit your previous marriage. This will help you determine if you are really ready to date again.

Until next time, take a moment to laugh, love, live and breathe life!

Love,
AunT

Trinette Collier Greene is a Certified Relationship Stylist and Contributing Writer.

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