Trinette Collier Greene

Q:  I recently married about a year ago and I really thought our relationship was supposed to be 50/50 in everything -  such as household chores, finances, decisions and more. I’m not frustrated but sometimes I feel like I’m doing more. Is marriage 50/50?

Signed: C.C. ~ Half & Half

A:  Newsflash… a marriage will not be 50/50! I know there may be some couples that have mastered this but it takes practice and patience. It is natural to believe that when you get married that your life will be equally divided. However, the reality is that more than likely it won’t. The dynamics of each relationship varies upon your relationship goals. You said that you are not frustrated but it sounds as though you are deeply concerned and want to resolve it before going any further.

What prompted you to believe that a marriage is 50/50? Do you feel like a marriage should be equally divided? Did you see this type of marriage growing up with your parents? Do you know of other couples doing this? Splitting chores, finances, decisions and other items in your marriage will require much communication and expectations from both of you. You will need to relay your concerns to your husband and be truthful as you explain your concerns before they turn into frustrations. Discuss your strengths and weaknesses in each area that you are requesting. Work together to achieve the goals that BOTH of you have set.

I will keep you in prayer!

Until next time, laugh, love and live life!

Love,
AunT

Trinette Collier Greene is a Certified Relationship Stylist
and
Contributing Writer

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