Q: How should I deal with men trying to date me on social media? I don’t know them and I’m very leery.

Signed: I Don’t Know You

A: Finding a companion to date has become a task these days. You have many matchmaking sites, services, dating apps, and more! It’s hard to choose what you want to do when finding that special someone because you worry about safety and credibility of these dating connections. One connection that has become sort of the norm, is social media. It starts with the infamous “ DM or Inbox” message from that guy who’s been looking at your pictures and LIKES everything about you!

So, how do you stop the DM/Inbox messages? When someone contacts you through social media, you can choose to reply with a mild message of “Thank you for reaching out, however, I am not interested in dating at this moment. Have an awesome day!” Usually, a simple message like this has helped me in the past. At the time that I was trying to date, I would have conversations with the guys IF we had credible mutual connections. Other than that, I wouldn’t go any further than that reply.

However, you can choose NOT to reply, it’s truly your choice. If you feel unsafe about this person being connected to your social media, you can Delete, Block and Report the name without them knowing. Social media can also be good for dating IF you have mutual friends connected. As with any dating procedure, safety comes first so here are a few tips for meeting anyone that you are unfamiliar with.

1. Never disclose any personal information online. If you choose to communicate through email, you can create an email account just for that and get a Google number.
2. If you choose to meet up, always meet in a popular (well lit, people, etc) area and give your family or friends your meet up information, description of the person as well.
3. Be sure to review the person’s profile. If anything sticks out that you are not sure about, question that person about it.

Until next time, laugh, live, and love life!

Love, 

AunT

Trinette Collier Green is a
Certified Relationship Stylist
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