Q: How do you know you are ready for a relationship after a divorce?

M.G. ~ Ready to Date

A: First, you have to consult with God through your prayers. For me, I was single for 10 years before God allowed me to bring anyone into my world. Don’t panic! I’m not saying that it will take that long! I needed to cleanse my mind, body, and spirit because I had asked to be remarried. God took me through the process of preparation. This may not be your case. You may simply want to just date, which is perfectly fine. 

Here are a few pointers to help you determine if you are ready or not:

1. You are no longer connected to your ex. If you have children, you don’t have a choice but to be connected. However, if you are still wanting them physically and mentally, then you are not ready. You still have healing to do.
2. You are not bitter and angry whenever you mention your ex. If you are, you are not ready to move forward.
3. You are completely free of any sexual soul-ties from ANYONE in your past. During your alone time, it is encouraged to not connect with anyone sexually because you will continue to add to issues on top of prior issues.
4. Your energy/vibe is different compared to previously. You have a different perspective on life and relationships. You should be more positive and opened.
5. You have forgiven them and yourself for any mistakes that caused you to divorce. If you are wanting to date, you can’t bring in baggage to the new relationship. 

These are not guarantees because ultimately it is your decision and determination. However, these suggestions will help you get started in the right direction.

Until next time, laugh, live and love life!

Love,
AunT

Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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