Mindset Matters by Cassandra Williams-Herbert

Abandonment a Heartfelt Issue

There are so many life experiences that can cause issues of abandonment. Many are very obvious; some lay dominant. Abandonment issues carry wounds that can be hidden from individuals such as family and friends that are with you on a daily basis. They are often wounds and hurts that have a lot to do with past and present generational dysfunctions. Some people take on the biggest why and that is - trying to answer someone else’s why. These heartfelt issues (you may encounter) - understand that you can not take ownership of someone else issues or their reason(s) for abandonment but understand that they are also dealing with an issue you didn’t ask for, nor answer for. The only way to get rid of abandonment issues is to heal them at the root.

Abandonment is related to fear, insecurity, rejections, unhealthy relationships, low self-esteem, whatever area that might affect you, chances are they did not appear overnight.

When faced with trying to deal with these issues, you are somewhere between denial, discouragement, despair, and deep thought. You may be dealing with the silent killer Depression, making you feel alone in your ability to be able to maintain healthy relationships and find the happiness you want in life.

As I look at the loss of my father which I speak about often, I feel so lost at times trying to process my moment of saddest denial, despair, discouragement, and my deepest thought of why?

The feeling of these emotions is tough and terrible. How do I know, because I have been there. The most difficult part is trying to work through the pain and how the pain carries you through life; then it’s like pouring salt in an old wound when you've been dealing with things that shift your feelings or thoughts. A stage I would call the awakening to some issues that you suppressed, through your own way of self-healing.

It’ s not easy but finding ways to heal is possible. I didn’t think it was possible for me but I have came a long way since Jan. 3, 2010 and you can, too.

The process is key to working through your abandonment issues. What I know is, the truth about your feelings will help bring you into a place of healing.

When you look at healing your heart and mind, you condition them to help discover the process that can immediately pinpoint exactly what’s happening with your breakdown by identifying the who, what, when, where, and how - so it can finally heal and shift your mindset.

My encouragement is to know the cause to help find the cure. Healing is a process. Life happens and there are some questions about life that may not ever give or allow you to get the answer of your desires; there will be some things that only God can help you with in your soul to find peace and joy. Your Mindset to all matters of life is essential to your healing.

Cassandra Williams-Herbert
Contributing Writer