Trinette Collier Greene

Q: How do you tell the relatives of your significant other that your relationship is fine? They are very overprotective and always want to know details.

V.W. ~ Man vs. Family

A: This is a common problem when it comes to dating someone and it will never go away, even after you marry. Family will always stick with each other, no matter what goes on. The need to protect is natural and expected. It can be due to previous relationships that were unfavorable or it could be a close-knit family. Whatever the case may be, you will have to make it known that you are in a relationship with him and him only. However, everything can be handled respectfully and in good taste.

As you approach his immediate family, be mindful that you will be treading those waters alone. However, he should be there with you to support and defend you if needed. Don’t be intimidated because you may become united and there must be boundaries in place. Be calm and respectful. Let them know he should respect your wish and support you. If this doesn’t happen, then you may need to invite a mediator to help resolve the issue IF it continues to be an issue. Just reassure his family that Y'all are fine and you have his best interest at heart. Sometimes calm words can soothe the most fiery spirits.

Until next time, laugh, live, love and stay faithful!

Love,
AunT

Trinette Collier Greene is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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