Trinette Collier Greene

Q: My husband has recently been released from prison after three years and my family is treating him differently. They are bringing up his past mistakes every time we get into a discussion. I’m feeling a bit torn because I want everyone to be happy…we were all fine before he went in. How do I make it like it was before?

B.T. ~ Locked In Love

A: I’m glad to hear that you are reunited with your husband after three years. I know that had to be an adjustment for you as well as your family while he was away. Now that he is home, you will have to create a new life for you and him. You will have to establish a new life. This will require some time and won’t happen in one day so don’t become overwhelmed. Pace yourself and embrace the new beginnings.

It sounds as though you care very deeply for your family and that is a blessing. However, this is the time that you must focus on your husband and self. Your family must learn to respect you, your husband, and the healthy boundaries you BOTH set. Bringing up someone’s past is not healthy and your family has to be mature enough to acknowledge that that’s not good to do. God forgives us so we must do the same for our brothers and sisters. You may never get back to how it was before because this is a new beginning for everyone. Don’t try to make it like before…God gave your husband a new beginning and that included reuniting with you.

Until next time, laugh, love, live life.

Love,
AunT

Trinette Collier Greene is a Certified Relationship Stylist and Contributing Writer

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