Friday, October 20, 2017

Ask AunT

Dear AunT,

Q: Is it ok to fake an orgasm to boost your man’s ego?

Signed: D.M. - Want to keep it real

A: This is a bit sensitive simply because a man never wants to hear that you are faking during lovemaking. The experience is supposed to be shared emotionally and enjoyed by both. I wouldn’t necessarily fake one to boost his ego but maybe approach the situation differently. For example, one night or day, ask some intimate questions that will allow you to get to know each other such as his dislikes/likes when it comes to sex. However, I wouldn’t fake it because one day you may in a mood to not fake it and boom….MORE issues will come!

Until next time, I’ll chat with you later!

Love ya,

Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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Sunday, October 15, 2017

Cindy's Featured Artist of the Week - Linda Diane Wattley

Linda Diane Wattley is a proud veteran of the United States Army.  Born in Akron, Ohio attended the University of Akron majoring in Psychology.
Over twelve years, a religious/philosophical columnist for the Frost Illustrated Newspaper in Fort Wayne, Indiana. In 2016, she addressed PTSD, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder by writing, “Soldier with a Backpack, Living and Dying Simultaneously” which made her a nominee for the ‘Best in Nonfiction’ during the African American Literary Awards Show.
Currently, she shares her “Love and Redemption Series” which is a dramatically written story revealing intimate truths about molestation and the impact it has on a child’s soul. Leona is the child growing up and sharing her soul.  Keep her close to your heart.
Available today is the first of the series, “Charge of an Angel”.  Here you witness the early beginnings of the secrets of sexual abuse.

And, the second book, “Unfathomable Love”.  Never will you witness a love so unique and beautiful as the love waiting for Leona.  God only knows what can become of it.  You don’t want to miss it.

Currently, she joined TLBTV and the Beacon Project as host of “The Truth Will Set You Free Show” where you don’t have to be a celebrity to share our truth with the world.  Linda has been featured in various magazines like Beautifully Said Magazine, Authentically You Magazine, Sistah’s Place Real Talk Magazine, and Black Pearl Magazine.  You Can follow and connect with Linda on social media and her website. 

Friday, October 13, 2017

Ask AunT

Dear AunT,

Q: How long should you put up with Baby Daddy/Mamma drama? 

Signed: A.L. - I've reached my Limit

A: Well, A.L., to be honest, you shouldn’t put up with any drama in your life, period! We’ve made that term a household name and think that it is normal. Baby Mamma, Baby Daddy, drama…that’s too much!

First of all, he/she is the parent of your child/children. Let me make a disclaimer, I don’t have any children of my own but I am their ‘ BonusMom’ (I just don’t like the term ’step’) and the parent of my LoveChildren has not given me any drama simply because maturity is a major factor in the situation. She knows that he has moved on with his life and vice versa. He knows that he is their father and has provided the monetary support along with raising them. Was he perfect? No! Did they have drama along the way? I’m pretty sure but I’m also guessing that it became very tiring and old. Somewhere along that journey, one of them or both had to come to some solution to work for the betterment of the children.

When you are dealing with a mature, non-toxic relationship and you know that it is about the well being of the child, then there should not be any drama. Now, I know it’s easily stated because I have not had to deal with child support, ex-boos or the family. However, you have the right to NOT allow drama in your life dealing with your child. Sometimes you have to put your foot down, bite your tongue and say “enough is enough!” Let’s be parents to our child/children! We can go on for hours discussing this topic but for starters, try to have a conversation with the other parent and look for solutions.

Until next time, chat with you later!


Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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Sunday, October 8, 2017

Cindy's Featured Artist of the Week - Florenza!


Florenza Denise Lee is an author, publisher, Certified Life Coach, a motivational and inspirational speaker.

Florenza is the proud mother of two amazing daughters; Jessica (age 30) and Melissa (Age 28). Jessica resides in Honolulu, HI, Melissa in Hampton, VA. Florenza is a proud Military spouse; she and her husband, Trefus have been married for nearly 34 years. Trefus recently retired from the US Army with over 31 years Active Duty Service. After traveling the world, they chose to call Hampton, Virginia home. 

Florenza’s latest book is The Tail of Max the Mindless Dog, A Children’s Book on Mindfulness is the 13th book written by Florenza. It is the fourth published as an eBook and is her first book released in print. She released Max in eBook form in 2014 and in print Jan 2017.

The Tail of Max the Mindless Dog, A Children’s Book on Mindfulness is an adorable book about a puppy named Max. Max’s tail oftentimes gets hurt. He believes his tail is the source of his pain, so he sets out to catch it and tie it in a knot. This quest causes him to develop a habit of running around in circles.

Seeing Max miss out on all the fun in life, his friend, Ross introduces him to a new habit: Mindfulness. By applying the Belly Breath, Count of Ten, and Words of Affirmation, Max learns to replace his negative non-productive habits and amazing things happen for him! 

Friday, October 6, 2017

Ask AunT

Dear AunT,

Q: When is it too old to be living in your Momma's house?

A: To be honest, it depends on the goal/goals of the individual. If you have a financial goal and your mother is ok with it, then it should not matter to anyone else. Just make sure that the goal is saving money and obtaining wealth. Many cultures are encouraged to live together, to do just that.

Other reasons may include being a caretaker for his/her mom. The parent may not have a chronic illness but need some assistance in living at home. Many of us now have aging parents and sometimes Assisted Living homes are not always a good choice for the person. Along with safety, the adult child may not feel it is safe for their parent to live alone.

However, if a grown man/woman (anyone OVER 21) is still living at home with their Momma and doesn't have a job, no educational goals, is not being productive in any way, is just being straight lazy, then it’s time to GO! GET OUT!!

Until next time, I’ll chat with you later!


Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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Monday, October 2, 2017

Introducing Gigi Wilkins - Simply Cindy's Newest Team Member

It's my pleasure and honor to introduce Gigi Wilkins, who joined my team as a Contributing Writer. Gigi will write about Women's Fashion.

Gigi Wilkins was born and raised in Houston, Texas. She is an Independent Healthcare Professional, Family Advocate, and Freelance Entertainer, who achieved her goal of becoming a Published Author August 2017. Her professional career spans over 20 years in Healthcare and Emergency Management. Gigi is a self-described Extroverted Introvert. Gigi is a mother of three; two sons who both serve in the U.S. Military and a daughter who is also an entrepreneur, studying to earn a degree in Fashion Merchandising. Gigi is often recognized for her giving nature and complimented on her great smile, and taste in almost every woman’s vice, the perfect shoe. Gigi enjoys poetry, all types of music and traveling.

Ten years ago, Gigi was introduced to acting and joined SW Casting. Gigi has worked in Texas and Georgia as background and featured talent in local commercials, movies, and television. Gigi’s faith, coupled with the encouragement of a good friend, pulled her back to her passion for writing and helping others. She repurposed the challenges of violence, poverty, and manipulation she’d endured. Gigi placed her energy in mentoring, volunteering and donating to organizations dedicated to rehabilitating families as a whole, with emphasis on the importance of a strong family unit. Gigi started her own business, SYMGI Writing Services, helping small businesses streamline their processes to increase revenue and assisting individuals entering or re-entering the workforce by providing tailored resources to assist with securing viable employment.

Gigi is completing her Bachelor’s degree In Healthcare Management and working towards her MS. In her spare time, Gigi is dedicated to improving family life in her community. She actively volunteers for the Houston Area Women’s Center; she is a Business Mentor for the Prison Entrepreneurship Program, and the Read Houston Read, Barbara Bush Program for one of the largest districts in Texas, Houston Independent School District.

In honor of her mother’s life, Gigi is currently working on initiatives such as the CSL Foundation to secure psychological counseling for children living in homes of domestic violence and divorce as well as educating women and men on the long-term effects of domestic violence. The objective is to demonstrate how the cycle of abuse transcends far beyond the immediate situation. 

Gigi has been recently featured in Beautifully Said Magazine, Sistah’s Creative Media, Cindy's Featured Artist of the Week, and interviewed by Letrise Carter on Blog Talk Radio. She is planning a book tour in the Spring of 2018. Gigi is comforted by the memories of her mother’s captivating personality and her motto in the face of opposition, “I’m not perfect, and it could be worse”. “Live life courageously, in every situation, seek Christ, Strength, and Love.”

Please connect with her via the “ASK THE AUTHOR” tab on her website, where you can also purchase her first book, “I Married My Daddy”, Journey to Self. Purchasing directly from the site, allows her to donate a portion of the proceeds to families affected by domestic violence.

You can also find her on IG: @gigi.wilkins TWITTER: @msgigiwilkins

Please help me welcome Gigi to the Simply Cindy Blog team and to our blogging community!

Theo's Sports Corner

Could this finally be the year the Washington Nationals make the World Series?

The Washington Nationals have been one of the best teams in Major League Baseball for the last seven years. The team has posted a winning record each year since 2012. The Nats are a perennial playoff team. However, the Nationals will no longer be judged for simply making the playoffs. This year they will be judged to see if they can not only make the World Series but if they win it.

The playoff struggles of the Washington Nationals are well noted. The team has had early playoff exits in 2012, 2014, and 2016. In 2012, the Nats lost to the Saint Louis Cardinals after being up in the Series 2-1. In 2014, the Nats lost to the San Francisco Giants, eventual World Series Champions. They lost the 1st game of that playoff series in the longest playoff game in MLB history which went 18 innings. In 2016, they lost to the Lost Angeles Dodgers in another series that they had a lead in and were not able to close it out. This team has not even made it to the National League Championship Series much less the World Series. This year, in 2017, they have already qualified for the Playoffs which start next week. The Nats have one of the best records in the league again this year.

The question is will this year be different in the Playoffs? Here are more questions I will be looking at in trying to answer that question. Is the Nats Superstar Bryce Harper fully healthy as he returns to the lineup right before the Postseason? Are the big bats, Ryan Zimmerman, Anthony Rendon, Daniel Murphy, of the Nats going to step up in the Post Season? Will the Nats pitching ace, Max Scherzer, continue to play lights out? Will pitching stud, Stephen Strasburg, stay healthy which is something he has had trouble doing. How will the new and improved bullpen featuring Sean Doolittle and Ryan Madson hold up in the Playoffs? Finally, can legendary manager Dusty Baker lead this team over the Hump in the Playoffs?

Could this finally be the year for the Washington Nationals? Stay tuned! It remains to be seen.

Theo Abbott

Contributing Writer

Sunday, October 1, 2017

Cindy's Featured Artist of the Week - C. Michelle


Love, Abuse, Marriage, Divorce, Happiness, Family, Relationships, Life! Soul Moving, Spiritual, Godly, Unique, Positive Energy, and Vibes.

C. Michelle, The Purple Poet is all that and so are her books.
C. Michelle Atkins has been through many storms in her life. Her parents divorced when she was very young. She was in an emotionally and physically abusive marriage, but through it all, she has triumphed.
Ms. Atkins is a strong Godly woman. She has been an educator for more than 21 years. She is a divorced mother of six, and grandmother of eight beautiful grandchildren.
C. Michelle has self-published three books. The first book is a collection of poetry about her life, and the second is an informational/self-help relationship book. 

The Purple Poet just finished writing her third book entitled, "Poetry For Yo Soul" and she co-authored an anthology about divorce entitled, "How Divorce Became My Deliverance". She is working on a children's book, expected to be published by the end of this year. C. Michelle (aka The Purple Poet) resides in a suburb of Atlanta, GA with her three youngest children.

Contact Info:
Instagram: CMichelleThePurplePoet
Twitter: cmpurplediva

Divine Wellness

Time Management

Traci A. Fonville

The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into manageable tasks and then starting on the first one.

-Mark Twain

Have you ever wished for a few more hours in the day? Why is it that some people seem to get everything done effortlessly and others feel that time constantly eludes them? The secret to managing your time well isn’t working more hours. It’s about prioritizing the important things and learning to use the time you have more efficiently and effectively. The secret is working smarter, not harder.

Some of us, by nature, organize and get tasks out of the way before we relax, while others play first and work later. It’s important to first recognize which type of person you are and whether your style is allowing you to have the life you really want. Maybe you are super organized at work, but burnt out because you don’t know how to make time for yourself. Maybe you are naturally a less organized person who knows how to relax, but you are dissatisfied because you aren’t fulfilling your goals and dreams.

Rather than labeling yourself or beating yourself up, realize that time management is an area of your life that you can strengthen. Like a new muscle, it takes practice and repetition to make it stronger. To help you get started, here are some tips to streamline your days at work and at home. Try the first one or two that jump out at you:
  • Allocate time for planning and organizing.
  • Create to-do lists that are realistic, not intimidating. Use only one to-do list.
  • Under-schedule your time. Leave time for the unexpected and for interruptions. When you estimate how long something will take, add on a third of that time.
  • Schedule your time in a way that reduces interruptions that lower your productivity.
  • Practice the art of intelligent neglect. Eliminate trivial tasks.
  • Prioritize what is most important and do that first.
  • Consider your biological prime time. At what time of the day do you work best? Plan your most important work at that time.
  • If you say yes to everything that comes your way, then you can learn to say no.
  • Ask for help and delegate.
  • In the evening, make your to-do list for the next day so it will be out of your brain and on a piece of paper. Leave work with a clear head and a clean desk.
  • Acknowledge yourself daily for all that you have accomplished.
Also, take a look at the two biggest hindrances to using time effectively: procrastinating and lacking purpose. We usually procrastinate when a task seems too daunting, too large or too complex. When you get that “deer in headlights” feeling, try “chunking”. Break the large task into smaller, manageable action steps and start with the first one. We also often drag our heels or use our time inefficiently because we are bored, unengaged and uninspired. The most effective people will tell you that they love what they do and are aligned with a greater purpose. When it comes to managing your time, you may need to ask the larger questions, “Am I doing something that I love to do?” “Am I doing something meaningful to me?”

As you strengthen your new time management muscle, keep your focus on getting organized so that you can live the life you came here to live. Instead of being a chore, good time management can be your ticket to more fun, greater satisfaction, and a vibrant, exciting life!

Traci A. Fonville
Contributing Writer

Traci A. Fonville is a board certified holistic health coach, a graduate of the Institute of Integrative Nutrition and a registered yoga teacher. She is the owner of I Affirm Wellness, which specializes in health coaching and beginner yoga classes. She is a Wellness Advocate for dōTERRA Essential Oils and a Brand Ambassador for ItWorks! 

Follow Traci on Instagram and Facebook @iaffirmwellness. Log onto her websites for health and wellness products at and

Friday, September 29, 2017

Ask AunT

Dear AunT,

Q: When does a woman start listening to a man about how’s she’s dressing?

A: Hmmm, that's a great question with a teeny tiny problem. Listening should begin the moment you both enter into a healthy and committed relationship; usually in the courting/dating stage. As the relationship evolves, so should your expectations for each other so that new ‘ BodyCon’ dress shouldn’t come as a surprise on date night ;)

A woman should know what her significant other likes or dislikes. However, things do change and you may want to experience new looks from time to time and it’s OK! It’s ok to want to explore sexy & creative looks or just be comfortable and cute in your sneakers & sweats. It’s also acceptable to ask your mate for their opinion on what you are wearing but be mindful that whatever you choose, it should represent you AND your healthy relationship. IF the man disagrees with your choice, don’t argue, simply find creative ways to resolve the issue and if it can’t be resolved, then there is a bigger problem.

Until next time, chat with you later!


Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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Sticky Notes

Trinette Collier Greene - Teacher

Sticky Notes… Sticky Situations Daily Dose of ?!?!

Hey everyone! Welcome back to Sticky Notes…. Sticky Situations Daily Dose of ?!?! I hope your school year is starting off just right! In the last article, I gave you a few pointers on how to have a great year. Are they helpful? I hope so! 

Today, let’s chat about meeting your child’s teacher. I know, I know…what is the big deal about meeting the teacher? Well, to be honest, many times mishaps occurs when both the parent and teacher are not on one accord. This can easily happen when the message is not clear on both ends. There should be expectations set for the teacher as well as the parent. Such as, what is the curriculum? The grading system? The homework policy? Discipline system for the school and the classroom? When are conferences? Progress/Report Cards and MORE! Ask questions. 

All of these factors and more should be communicated and set in the beginning of the school year. This should also be discussed with the child present, so a Parent/Teacher Meet & Greet should take place and then a conference BEFORE anything happens like an unsatisfied grade. You don’t have to become buddies with the teacher but do let the teacher know that you are willing to work with her/him for the best interest of your child. Also, remember that teachers are people too! We have personal lives, families, and other factors in our lives as well so we have to balance our students and parents. 

Let your child know that your family appreciates their teacher and are supportive of the decisions that are made. Send tokens of appreciation throughout the year (nothing expensive but a simple Thank You). If you don't agree, always discuss that with the teacher away from the child. Remember, the common goal is to give him/her the BEST education for the school year. It’s a three-legged team; Parent, Teacher, and Community.

Stay connected for more tips on having a great year and more! Until next time, remember to get a daily dose of laughter & love.

Mrs. Collier Greene

Tuesday, September 26, 2017

Raise 'Em and Praise Him - Testimony Tuesday! Cindy

Good day family! I can't disappoint you, my readers, so here's another one of my writings of past that I'm resharing. Send in your testimony so we'll have new snippets of God's love to share with each other. 

Today’s message written by Cindy Reed

"Brush Your Tongue with a Purpose in Mind"

I’m sure that at one point and time in your life, you’ve heard the phrase “I’m going to wash your mouth out with soap. Even if it was never said to you, I’m sure you heard it stated. That statement comes from someone believing that a child said or might say something that wasn’t appropriate.

Did you know that you should brush your “tongue” every time you brush your teeth? Do you know the “scientific” reasoning behind it? If not, Google it.  I’m here to talk to you about the “spiritual” meaning behind it.

The tongue has a very important role. Without it, you cannot speak. With it, you have a choice on what you speak. The tongue can cut, manipulate, deceive, and destroy, amongst many other negative things. It can praise, sing, testify, preach, and teach, amongst other positive things.

Within our mouth, each one of us has the power to control the negative and the positive. With the tongue, God has given us free will to make choices that either do harm or good. The choice is ours.

My message today comes from the reminder I get when brushing my teeth and I wanted to share that with you. As I brush my teeth, I am reminded from time to time to brush my tongue. I’m not always reminded and when I’m not, I do it anyway. God knows me well and He knows what I’m going to do and say before I do. I get subtle reminders from time to time to brush my tongue. Those reminders say one thing only to me. Brush your tongue as a reminder that you watch what you say today. Let this act that starts off your day, remind you that you should clean your tongue so that you are mindful of what you allow to roll off of it.

Folks, if each of us takes that message/reminder to heart, we’ll do a lot less hurting to one another and more uplifting of one another. Instead of cutting each other down, we’ll build each other up. We’ll start our day off with a certain kind of holiness to do the right thing because we’ve cleansed our tongue of anything foul that shouldn’t be. Germs removed that can cause havoc, not only inside our mouths but cause havoc with what we allow to leave our mouths. A lot can be transferred by way of the tongue.

So each morning when brushing your teeth, if you don’t already do this, think of the Lord our God and brush your tongue with Him in mind. Brush it and make it your daily reminder that you’re cleansing your tongue today to honor Him. Allow yourself to start your day off trying to do the right thing. Remember that the foul language that you let leave your mouth will have a negative impact on you later; in one way, shape or form.

Present positivity. Psalm 19:14
Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.

Have a very blessed day today family. One love in Christ. Let’s stand together. Love, Cindy*

Monday, September 25, 2017

Mindset Matters

I know WHO I am

Do you know who you are? What I have found is many cannot truly answer this question but knowing who you are is very crucial and essential. Most important, knowing who you are in Christ.

1 John 3:2New King James Version (NKJV)

2 Beloved, now we are children of God; and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be, but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is. 

God is a loving Father whose deepest desire is to have a two-way conversational relationship with the Apple of His eye, His beloved creation, YOU!

Empowering someone can be a simple phrase or statement of God’s love for them. I encourage you to tell someone they are the Apple of God's eye.

It thrills me to know that we have an invitation from God to experience the blessings of living our purpose... Knowing who you are and who you may become can be tested by people you would least expect, causing conflicts with people misunderstanding and pre-judging you.

Knowing Who You Are

You may find yourself not fitting in the social groups; your circle of friends may have to change.

When I think of the words I am, the I AM in knowing that my relationship could not be connected to a better source (The Father) and knowing that I am one of His precious creations, helps me define myself and my purpose.

I think of the saying - "It Is, What It Is". These words can motivate you to seek your full potential. It takes a mindset change to walk freely and boldly in your purpose.

The Gospel of John has some powerful meaningful expressions of "I Am"s that are found.

There are seven of these, as follows:

1. "I am the bread of life" (John 6:35, 48,51).


2. "I am the light of the world" (John 8:12).


3. "I am the door of the sheep"(John 10:7,9).


4. "I am the good shepherd" (John 10:11,14).


5. "I am the resurrection, and the life" (John 11:25).


6. "I am the way, the truth, and the life" (John 14:6).


7. "I am the true vine" (John 15:1,5).


And Remember you are the Apple of his Eye.

Cassandra Williams-Herbert
Contributing Writer

Sunday, September 24, 2017

Cindy's Featured Artist of the Week - TASTEiTPARTIES


TASTEiTPARTIES is your ultimate CULINARY SOCIETY  and PARTY PLANNING SERVICE.  We specialize in PARTIES, Global Gourmet Bites, Culinary Escapes, Pantry Products, Event Planning, and Chef Referrals. We are your one-stop shop for your catering and event planning needs! Our end goal is to ensure that every client feels like a VIP, every TASTE a gourmet bite and every BITE a culinary escape! From intimate setting dinners to cocktail parties, to galas and everything in between we got you!

Our MISSION is to bring the VIP experience to every event as we help our clients CELEBRATE life special occasions. We are a culinary society of caterers, chefs, event designers and planners, each working individually or together to bring their vision to life; providing clients with the ultimate culinary escape and PARTY experience!

We ENVISION bringing the Global Gourmet Culinary Experience to events nationally through our line of TASTEiTPARTIES gourmet sauces, seasonings and small bites products and hope to be the most desired provider and platform for our clients, chefs and event planners in the industry!

My passion for food and entertaining started at an early age, we had parties (LIME/Hang Out) at our home every weekend. My dad loved playing music and every Friday evening he would put on his tunes, (loud) kick back and have a drink before you know it one or two neighbors would pop in, a friend or two would pass by to “check” the Boss… that’s what they call him! LOL! Often times my mom would whip something up really quick in the kitchen and my sister and I were the runners/servers, I loved it… everyone always seemed so happy, laughter in the air, the smell of deliciousness coming from our kitchen and we got to eavesdrop on the adults! 

I started cooking at 10 years old (details in my book one day) but as early as 16 my dad’s friends would ask me to make my Fried Chicken and Potato Salad for them. Eventually, that turned into me being an unofficial caterer and since I liked making everything pretty, I got to design and stage the table and room too! I honestly can’t think of a culture where food is not the center of a get-together or celebration of any kind.

I was always creative in the kitchen, trying new ways to prep, cook and present food, being from the Caribbean that was not always readily received but I would ALWAYS say “JUST TASTE IT”. I love the idea of elevating food and the experiences surrounding food to a VIP culinary escape, hence the beginning of TASETiTPARTIES! Today we offer our clients a culinary society with a modern approach to party planning with our TASTING parties, the chef experience with our Signature Rubs and Sauces, a wide variety of global gourmet cuisine options, a host of chefs to choose from, event designers and so much more!

PHONE 494 234 4940
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Thursday, September 21, 2017

Ask AunT

Dear AunT,

Q:  When do you tell the truth about having an orgasm?

A:  When it comes to your relationship, truth should always be a priority and when having a discussion about sex in your relationship, you should never be afraid of exploring questions and seeking answers for them. 

Sex is always an issue with couples because the majority of us (me included) have been taught that sex is taboo or sexual desires/questions shouldn’t be asked or whatever the case may be, sex has been that topic that most of us are afraid to explore. 

As a couple in the beginning of your courting/dating status, these conversations should take place. Discuss your desires, dislikes, likes, and when you become united, explore the unknown! Orgasms are natural and they are part of you. Sometimes you may not experience orgasms due to many factors. This is when you should consult a doctor; women (OBGyn) men (physician) or as a couple, consult with a Certified/Licensed Sex Therapist. YES!! A Sex Therapist! It’s ok! What better way to learn about yourself…ask questions and explore. 

However, remember to always tell the truth and don’t be shamed. Orgasms are natural and if your partner is sexually connected with you, they will be able to tell. ;)

Can’t wait to chat with you next week!

Love ya,

Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Raise 'Em and Praise Him - Testimony Tuesday! Cindy

Good day Family! Resharing one of my past writings on this Testimony Tuesday! God bless and make it a great day in the Lord!


I'm in the Spirit right now.

My strength comes from the Father, for my heavenly Father told me "Yes, You Can" when I felt I was in my deepest and darkest place ever.

God told me to trust in Him and He'd bring me through. He wanted me to not just believe in Him but to believe in myself. God said, "Yes, You Can"!! When I think my plate is overwhelmingly full - God says - "Yes, You Can"!!

I know my journey wouldn't be a successful one without His strength and endearing love for me. I know I wouldn't be in this position to hold on and keep on pushing if it wasn't for His grace and mercy. I've run into many obstacles on my journey - yet being discouraged isn't in my vocabulary. God has and continues to remind me that with everything in front of me - He's got me. God says be encouraged - "Yes, You Can"! "Yes Lord, I can"!

My daily prayers and my belief in the Father keeps me on this aggressive path to not only better myself but to encourage someone else. If I can recognize where all my gifts and talents come from and praise Him for trusting me to use them to glorify Him - you can too!

Step up, step out! Praise God for every challenge you've faced because you've been made into a better person for it. You made it through didn't you? Of course, you did - God said, "Yes, You Can"!!!

Each one reaches one, pass on God's love story! Help another to see exactly why you're smiling. Share God's word, His will, His way! We're in this together and I'm with you, my Brother, my Sister - let's take this walk together because with God on our side - we can do anything and we will be one in Him.

God says "Yes, You Can"! Thank you, Father, I can and I will!



Sunday, September 17, 2017

Cindy's Featured Artist of the Week - Toni Larue


Toni Larue is a little bit of everything right now. She has two companies: The Playlist (Books4u and Music4U). Her companies provide music and books to prison facilities nationwide. She is also the co-owner of Team Jon Doe. It’s an artist management company. They have two artists they’re working with: Brownboi Maj and JusXJustice. It's Toni's goal to expand toward managing more authors in the future.

She's also expanding her resume as a screenplay writer. She and her husband are collaborating on a dramedy so look out for that in a year.  She has two short stories only being released on e-books on coming soon: Have Mercy and The Morning After. These e-books will be a part of her horror collection. No Kissing became available August 31st and Abandoned Secrets: Lost Souls will be available December 12th on Amazon.

No Kissing is a novel she wrote 10 years ago.  It went through many name changes, the plot changed a bit but Toni was happy to finally see it completed. No Kissing came to her when she was at work. The first two chapters of the book, she wrote in two hours (she didn’t get much work done). "It just spilled out of me. That’s what took so long for me to complete it, I’d like to think because I wanted it to be organic. I wanted it to flow."

No Kissing is about a psychological thriller, of sorts. It takes you into the minds of three different people with three different motives. Langston, the main character is a sociopath who falls “dangerously” in love with his mistress.
Josephine, Langston’s wife, is aware of her husbands “issues” and she does what she can to clean up his messes. Then there's Leila. She’s young and naïve. She sees Langston as her meal ticket. In her mind, Langston is playing right into the palm of her hand but it doesn’t take her long to realize she might be the one actually getting played.

Abandoned Secrets: Lost Souls: Monroe Connors is back. The story takes place right after the first novel ends. Monroe is paranoid that the people she brought down will come after her. She wants to move on but is forced back into the underground world of the sex slave trade, when Elizabeth, the mother of a missing girl, seeks Monroe out to help her find her daughter. Toni introduced some new characters, Elizabeth and Charlie Steel and also brought back some fan favorites like Lance and Dominic.

"I love this book and I am so excited for people to read it.  This year has been great to me and I'm excited about promoting these two beautiful novels." 


Cindy's Featured Guest Writer - Devin Hillery


Hey, everyone! My name is Devin, I'm 16 years old and I’m an aspiring musician! Music will forever be a part of my life. I’m so happy to be able to do what I love and move forward with it. 

I started music when I was a little kid. My grandfather was the one who introduced me to it. He played the piano! I remember every time when I went to visit my grandparents, I would always go into the piano room and start playing what I thought sounded good. I’d be so excited to share the “song” I came up with and present it to the family. They always loved it, and I loved it more. A few times I would hear my grandpa playing the piano and I was so intrigued to see how he did it; I wanted to learn more. I would sit down next to him and he would slowly teach me the songs and I learned them right off the bat! He was a very strict teacher as well. Never bang on the keys, be clear, glide with your fingers. It was the very basic training that I got from him that made me the musician that I am today.

Once my grandpa passed on, I started to take music further. I kept playing the piano, practicing every time I went to visit my grandma and I got better and better. I came to the realization that on a piano I usually don’t need sheet music to look at. I’ll listen to a song, and then I'll press the keys that are the right note and just memorize it. It’s weird. I know. I don’t know how I do it but it just happens. I took a break from piano and decided to go to the orchestra in the fourth grade. I only played the violin for a month but it was probably one of the hardest instruments I have ever played. And violin is one of my favorite instruments! I love the soothing sound it has; it has a very good tone too! After that short month of the orchestra, I had gone to a new school and wasn’t sure if I wanted to stay with violin or switch instruments. I decided to switch and go to the band on clarinet! Now, this is where the journey really begins.

I attended Cardinal Forest Elementary School. I was in the 5th grade and I had my first day of band class. I was really nervous and didn’t know how to play a squeak on the clarinet but my teacher was very helpful during my first few weeks and then she retired. I had gotten a new teacher later on and she was one of the best teachers I have ever had. She got me more interested in music as I became more familiar with the clarinet. 

Once I got into middle school, things started getting serious and I never liked the band as much; only because of the practice records but I scored 100’s on those every week. There was a test at the end of the year to see which band you would get into for the next year. I was always nervous. I didn’t think I would get any further. I was kinda letting myself down. I remember going into the room and my band teacher was asking me to play certain scales and then my prepared piece. My initial thought when I got out the room was I completely did terrible on my prepared piece, and scales and I won’t move further. Well, I got into the second highest band level for 8th grade! I was astounded. I was really proud of myself and I didn’t think something like that would happen.

Near the end of my 8th-grade year, I had to do another placement audition. Then I realized that if I were to stay in the band until I graduate high school, then I would have to audition every time at the end of the year because there are different band levels. 

The high school band teacher came in and I was ready for my audition. I kept boosting up my confidence and I was ready. I did what I had to do and then I found out that I got into the lowest band level in high school. Concert Band. I wasn’t happy at all with what I placed but then there were people there who were much better than me so, at the same time, it was okay. That just meant I had to work harder to get where I wanted to be. 

My sophomore year I moved up to the symphonic band, the second highest level, and this year (my junior year), I placed Wind Symphony. The highest level at West Springfield high school. I was in shock! I placed 8/10th chair clarinet! Then a new clarinetist came and she placed 4th chair so everyone after her got moved down one so now I’m 9th chair. That is totally okay because I’m still in Wind Symphony! 

This musical journey is going great so far and I have progressed so much throughout my six years in the band. I think that music is an essential part of life. Music seems like the one thing that everyone would want or need depending on emotions, just playing it for fun, or whatever the reason may be. If it’s a rainy day I’ll play in a concert E flat. When listening to music, I allow the song to dictate whatever emotion it may bring out in me. A lot of the songs evoke. I learned that word from my high school band teacher. Evoke. For those of you who don’t know, it’s putting more emotion out into a song, making it sound clear, or depth within the song, making it sound dark, however the song is written.

When I graduate high school, my dream is to go to a music school and major in music. If that road doesn’t go the right way then my backup is Astronomy. I think that I can achieve my goals in music because I’m really setting the bar high for myself. I have high expectations. I want to be the one person that people remember or think of, in musical terms. I want to leave my mark. I want to be the person who makes a difference between an incredible performance than an average one. I have started looking at music schools and I’m mostly looking at in and out of state colleges. Now, this is going to sound crazy but my dream has been to go to The Juilliard School. Even though the bar to get in is really high, I still want to put myself out there and do the audition anyway. I have looked at schools such as GMU, JMU, VT, etc. But that’s my goal in life right now. I want to get into a music school no matter what it takes. I’m glad that I have that determination because it’s what keeps me moving forward and pursuing my dreams.

Friday, September 15, 2017

Ask AunT

Dear AunT,

Q:  Can a woman’s sexual intent be judged by the clothing she’s wearing?

A:  This question always leads to heated discussions among both sexes. I personally don’t think sexual intent can be judged by the clothes that she wears simply because clothes can suggest many things to the eye of the beholder. 

I remember growing up, I wore skirts and dresses due to religious practices. I’ve always been curvy even as a child but most of my peers could still see the silhouette of my shape in my long skirts with a heavy lined slip and long sleeve blouses. So although I was completely covered, my male peers still had their own imagination and would often taunt me about my hips, butt, thighs, etc. I was even sexually harassed with these clothes (Little House on the Prairie look). So what was my intent then? None…..

On the flip side of this topic, women should take some responsibility in making sure that they feel secure and confident in whatever they wear. This means, if you choose to wear clothes that will bring attention to your body in a negative manner, you do have the right to not be treated with disrespect, no matter what you wear. I know this is not favorable among the seasoned generation because we were taught that it is our fault if men cat called or judged us if we are wearing provocative clothing. This is not true and it has been proven in many court cases over the years.

I think respect is the key…respect from others as well as for self. Sexual intent has nothing to do with what you are wearing.

Until next time, thanks for asking your favorite AunT….I’ll chat with you soon. 

Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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