Friday, January 12, 2018

Q: Should you expect an apology or acknowledgment when you’ve been wronged or offended in relationships?
Signed: T.F.~So Sorry

A: It’s the human emotion that expects an apology right after an offense happens. Think about the times as a child when we did something to someone; our parents or teachers would make us apologize with a quickness! We really didn’t mean it but for the sake of not being punished or dragging it out, we sourly said: “I’m sorry!”
We didn’t mean it, we were not sincere, we were forced, and most times we didn’t even realize what was so offensive that an apology was needed. We just apologized because we were told to.

Well, that has carried into our adulthood and for most people, apologies are unnecessary in their eyes. Many people voice their own opinions and may not think that something offends the next person. In my own marriage, I’ve had to help my husband understand that sometimes the words that come out his mouth are offensive. We would battle why he should apologize or not because he clearly didn’t believe that he should. The battle would continue but then God showed me how to come through the side door! I had to explain to him in a loving and less sensitive manner how his words really hurt. I also learned that because he is from the Northern part of the states, he is very blunt with words and I’m very sensitive. Believe it or not, people don’t know how to apologize or better yet WHY they should have to apologize.

Until next time, be sure to live, love and laugh because life is still good!


Trinette Collier Green is a Certified Relationship Stylist
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